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Teaching People How To Treat You

Teaching People How To Treat You

Teaching People How to Treat You

 

“You Teach People How to Treat You.” The quote has been out there forever, but have you ever really thought about what that means?   Just how do you get people to treat you the way you believe they should? The first question to be answered is how do you want to be treated?   This is a tricky one because it all depends on who the negative behavior is coming from.   Is it coming from your child? A co-worker? Spouse, friend or other relative?   Depending on their place in your life you must decide what the expected behavior is, then go about changing your behavior in order to accomplish your goal.

What? Change my behavior? But I don’t have the problem, they do! Thus the phrase “YOU teach people how to treat YOU”

Self- Examination – What behavior have you exhibited in the past that would indicate to this person that their behavior is okay?

Situation – The friend that keeps borrowing money.

Resolution

  1. Stop Lending the Money (cold turkey approach) or
  2. Have a conversation with the person and let them know that you will no longer be loaning them money or explain under what circumstances you will loan money.

Situation- Disrespectfulness.   How do you treat this person? Have you done anything to contribute to the environment of disrespect?

Resolution

  1. In an adult situation, always try to have a conversation with the other party to resolve the situation. Be prepared. Some people are just mean and will not change their ways. If this is the case then,
  2. Minimize contact with this person or completely disassociate yourself from this person. You do not need them in your life. If this person is the least bit interested in having a relationship with you they will change their behavior.
  3. Easier said than done. This person lives with you. Counseling may be the only option. If the person refuses to change or seek help, you have some tough decisions to make. Be prepared to live with your decisions.
  4. In the workplace this should be an easy fix but it many will tell you disrespect in the workplace can sometimes run rampant. From the power hungry boss to the overworked, underpaid employee and sometimes just general dislike of another.   Fortunately most businesses have written policies and procedures for this type of behavior. Unfortunately employees are sometimes so intimidated or don’t know their rights and therefore cannot mitigate the behavior.  If you find that you cannot handle the behavior by simple communication you may want to look into your company’s handbook to find out what steps you need to take to resolve the issue.

Recognize that people are products of their environments, but can change. If you are in an abusive situation, seek professional help, but for those situations that are in your control remember that you deserve the life you want and a part of that life should include healthy relationships with others.

 

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