THE “B” WORD – WHO SAID IT WAS ALRIGHT?
By: Desnee Young
Bitch – definition – “A female dog” “A malicious, spiteful, mean, overbearing woman.”
Q: When did it become acceptable to categorize women in such a demeaning manner?
The people of the United States are known for exercising their freedom of speech….no matter who it might hurt. The victims – every female on the face of the earth. Who are the biggest perpetrators? Women. It never ceases to amaze me how women have fought against rape, domestic violence, human trafficking, and so many other injustices, only to turn around and accept being referred to as dogs, not only by men, but by one another. Don’t believe it? Just turn on the television to any reality show featuring women. Still don’t believe it? Listen to the lyrics in some songs, tune into conversations that some young ladies are having with one another. Here are a few ways the “B” word is being used.
When said in a friendly manner, one woman to another “Hey “B”.
In anger “That “B,” “You “B,” She’s such a “B.” And so on and so on.
So how does this affect the self- esteem of a little girl who constantly hears this word being thrown around like its nothing? You might think that because she hears it all the time that she is not affected, but she is. She knows that it is being used in a derogatory manner, no matter what the method of delivery or tone of the voice. Because she is being conditioned to accept the word, when asked how her school day was she would probably mention it as though it were another part of the day like math or science. Worst case scenario, she knows she is being called a dog and withdraws at a time in her life when she should be soaring. After all the work, women have done, we have allowed a five letter word to take us back to a time when we were treated like animals.
It’s not funny, nor is it cute, nor is it trendy. It makes us look vicious, uncaring, spiteful, malicious, silly and mean. But most of all it puts us in the category of “less than.”
We disrespect ourselves and our sisters by calling each other the “B” word and allowing others to speak to us this way.
Think about it and before you throw up your hands and blow this article off, think of your daughters, your nieces, mothers, aunts and female friends. Me and mine remain “Fierce Women”.
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